Parent coach

Is there anything more important in your life than your child?

 

As our children are so important to us, there is no wonder that it hurts when things are not going as well as we wish with them. 

As your parent coach, I can help with challenges such as

  • arguments between you and your child

  • social pressure on how to be a good parent

  • low self-esteem

  • fighting among siblings

  • improve communication and listening between your and your child

  • how to deal with anger

  • having a child who doesn't fit in

  • anxiety about your child's future

How coaching works:

  • Email coach@livmiyagawa.com to make a booking

  • Sessions are 50 minutes online

  • I listen, ask questions and give you feedback to help you find the best way forward in your unique situation

  • In order to make coaching available to people in all economic situations, I offer a choice of different fee levels

  • I work under strict confidentiality 

  • Coaching is perfect for you if you don't want general advice, but need help and support to figure out what works best for you in your life

don't be a perfect parent,

Be the Parent that your child needs

Liv Miyagawa

I grew up in Sweden, lived and studied in various countries, and I now live with my husband and our three daughters in Tokyo, Japan. 

 

I love to help people to realise something new about themselves and have "aha-moments". In every part of my life I aim to lift people up. 

 

I studied at UWC Atlantic in Wales, an international boarding school where students from all over the world gather to learn, play, work for their communities and promote international understanding together. After a gap year (which I partly spent in India working with children in orphanages and schools), I studied psychology at the University of St Andrews in Scotland. Thereafter, I was trained by the International Coach Academy to become a Certified Professional Coach. I am now also a a member of the International Coaching Federation and accredited Professional Certified Coach (PCC).

 

Although I'm a parent coach, I also have many clients without children. Challenges such as career transitions, relationship problems, how to get organised and how to find and prioritise what is most important are common and exciting coaching topics. 

 

At home, I aim to be a creative and fun mother who leads my trilingual family to a healthy and balanced lifestyle. I also teach English to children and adults in my local community. 

 

In support of the UWC, young stundets and international peace, I have started a project to coach in exchange for donations to UWC. For more information about this project, please visit Coaching for UWC

People in general, and parents in specific, spend a lot of anxious or frustrated thoughts on things that they cannot do anything about. 

 

We worry about the physical health of our child. (Did he eat enough? Is she getting enough sleep? Is he too short? Is she too fat? Should he exercise more? Is she sick? Will he ever get better?) 

 

Social aspects. (Is she being bullied? Will he never learn to listen? What will other parents think of her behaviour? He’ll never get any friends! I must be such a bad parent!)

 

Intellectual aspects. (Did she practise enough? Is he smart enough? Should I make her read more? Which course should she take? Which school should he go to? I must remember to teach them ….!) 

 

And of course about the future. (What will become of him? What if …? If she’s like this now, she’ll never ever….? When X happens, he will…)

 

How many of these thoughts are about things that you as a parent have the power to influence? It’s probably up to you to decide what they eat at home. However, even if you’re the one who cooks the meal, you don’t have total control over whether or not they actually swallow it. Similarly, you cannot control what and how much will be served at the school lunch. 

 

They younger our children are, the more influence we have over their lives. The older they get, more and more decisions are up to themselves to make. Whom to play with, what to study and what to do with their lives. 

 

What if we could simplify our parenting lives by only clinging on to thoughts about those aspects of our children’s lives that we can influence? Many worries and frustrations would disappear. We would still care about our children and be interested in what they say and what happens to them, but we wouldn’t waste so much energy on useless worries and frustrations. 

 

Next time an anxious or frustrated thought pops into your head, stop and ask yourself: is this about something that I am able to do something about? If the answer is yes, then figure out what to do about it and get it done. If the answer is no, let it go and focus your energy on something more worthwhile. We will become more efficient and productive parents if we focus on those things that we can change. 

 

Liv Miyagawa 

Parent Coach