People with low self-esteem don’t expect people to treat them well because they expect others to view them in the same negative way as they view themselves. People with high self-esteem on the other hand expect to be treated well. They expect others to listen to them and care about them. In short, people with high self-esteem expect others to treat them as valuable human beings because that is what they consider themselves to be.
To raise your self-esteem you have to make sure that you don’t let yourself be walked over by others. When you are mistreated you need to show yourself enough self-respect to tell the person who treated you badly to stop. You should not accept to be called names or spoken to in a degrading way and you should not accept to be ignored. If you don’t do anything to show that you don’t accept bad treatment you show yourself and others that you are not worth better than that. To raise your self-esteem you need to stand up for yourself. If you do not respect yourself, nobody else will.
It’s is hard for me to say that “I am not accepting your treatment” when i am treated badly-not because having low self-esteem but because saying like this would make my pride low.I really have to cough myself up to say “i am not accepting your treatment.”Instead i bounce back those treatments to them although that seems destructive. Does anyone have any idea how to overcome ?